Pamela “Pam” Kay Oinos

Pamela “Pam” Kay Oinos (nee Friar), age 37 of Alabaster, AL passed away unexpectedly on Sunday, April 28, 2024. She is preceded in death by her grandparents, Bob and Jerrie Friar and Earl and Clara Pearce and father-in-law, Phil Oinos. Pam is survived by her loving husband, Alex Oinos; daughter, Olivia Oinos; son, Baker Oinos; parents, Rob and Leah Friar; brother, Robby Friar; mother-in-law, Joan Oinos; brothers-in-law, Philip Oinos (Hope), Matthew Oinos (Sarah Atchley) and J.R. Oinos (Kaili Jones); and nieces, Sophia, Norah and Hazel Oinos. She is also survived by her grandmothers-in-law and numerous aunts, uncles, cousins and friends.

Pam graduated from Spain Park High School in 2004, and later went to Auburn University and graduated with her bachelor’s degree in 2009.  She was creative, artsy, and always organized. Pam had a great mind and a wicked sense of humor. Pam was a loving wife and mother.

Services will be held on Monday, May 6, 2024, in the Charter Funeral Home Chapel.  A visitation will be held from 12 pm to 1 pm, a service will begin at 1 pm. She will be laid to rest in a private graveside service at a later date. Father Kevin Bazzel will be officiating.


  1. Erinn M. Horton on May 1, 2024 at 4:10 pm

    My most sincere condolences to Alex and the entire family. Praying for peace and comfort during this season.

  2. ShelleyBlack on May 1, 2024 at 4:24 pm

    I am so very sorry Alex to hear about Pam. Please reach out if you need anything.

  3. Al Tebar on May 1, 2024 at 4:55 pm

    I am so sorry for your family’s loss. I’ve been praying everyday that God has welcomed her in heaven with open arms Your father and Grandpa has great company now with them. May they all watch over and protect you and the kids. The Rebar family loves you and mourns your loss. May Pam rest in peace and God protect you and the kids❤️🙏🏻

  4. David Berg on May 1, 2024 at 8:22 pm

    I am so sorry for your loss. I’ll be praying for you, your children, and the rest of your family during this time of mourning. May the peace of Christ surround you and may you feel His loving presence in the compassion of those who rally around you to offer comfort and support in the days to come.

  5. John and Carroll Earnest. on May 2, 2024 at 1:12 am

    We are heartbroken to learn that Pam Friar Oinos has passed. We watched this sweet, sweet girl grow from birth, and we spent more time with “Pammy” and her brother Robbie than any other youngsters besides those in our own family. We knew her to be every bit as highly intelligent as her parents and brother, as well as loving, funny, fiercely independent and strong. It breaks our own hearts to think of the pain of loss of her dear loving parents, Rob and Leah. We are so very, very sorry, and pray for God to grant His peace and comfort to all her family in this hard time. God bless and keep you all.

  6. Dina McSweeney on May 2, 2024 at 3:42 am

    So very sorry for your loss. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. ❤️🙏

  7. Isabel C on May 2, 2024 at 10:46 am

    Heartbreaking to hear. Sending love and prayer’s to the entire family

  8. Alice Dial on May 5, 2024 at 1:21 pm

    Remember Me
    Remember me when flowers bloom early in the spring
    Remember me on summer days in the fun that summer brings
    Remember me in the fall as you walk thru leaves of gold
    And Remember me in the wintertime in the stories that are told
    But most of all Remember each day, right from the start,
    I will be forever near for I live within your heart

    Author unknown

  9. Sean Boykin on May 6, 2024 at 8:56 am

    My deepest condolences and prayers to the Friar and Oinos families. Pam was such a wonderful person.

  10. Adam Miller on May 6, 2024 at 7:13 pm

    I’m sorry to hear of your loss. Every minute, hour and day are so precious.
    Love and prayers from the Rockies. ❤️

  11. Shannon and Kevin Pipkin on May 7, 2024 at 5:24 am

    Alex I just saw this I am so sorry. I loved Pam she was a sweet and kind person. I will be praying for you and your family. This breaks my heart! I pray God gives you strength and peace during this time.

    Shannon and Kevin Pipkin

  12. Andrea on May 7, 2024 at 4:51 pm

    Pam! You will be so missed! I feel like I just seen you!! From middle school to high you continued to be that loving girl with that beautiful smile! I will forever hold on to the memories we shared! Rest my beautiful friend! WE LOVE YOU but GOD loves you MORE! He needs you there in HEAVEN!